Cunnilingus is an art that requires practice and listening to give your partner maximum pleasure. By stimulating the right areas with the right techniques, communicating and taking your time, you can give her an unforgettable cunnilingus. Here’s how to take your sexuality to the next level and rethink the way you make love.
What is cunnilingus?
Cunnilingus involves stimulating the female genitals with the tongue and mouth. This includes stimulation of the clitoris, labia and vaginal entrance. The clitoris, which contains thousands of nerve endings, is the most sensitive area and the one that gives the most pleasure.
To locate and reach the clitoris easily, it is located at the top of the vulva, where the labia minora meet. Its size and appearance vary from woman to woman. Exploring the whole of the vulva with your tongue will help you discover your partner’s most responsive areas and maximize ecstasy.
The importance of foreplay and communication
Before performing an exciting cunni, it’s essential to build desire through foreplay. First of all, you need to know how to kiss well with your tongue. Then, you can lick and caress the breasts, inner thighs and stomach to excite your partner. Communication is also important. Asking your partner what she likes, letting yourself be guided, suggesting things will make for a tailor-made cunnilingus and a renewed libido. Enjoyment will increase tenfold and ejaculation will be much more powerful.
The basic principle is that just because you’ve managed to make your ex cum in a certain way for 10 years doesn’t mean it will work on your new conquest. All bodies are different. Talking is the key to discovering each other’s preferences. So don’t just ask her for a blow job, think about her sexual desires and fantasies too.
Preparation and hygiene before you start
Before receiving a cunnilingus, good intimate hygiene is appreciated. A shower, using a mild soap, will eliminate any strong odors.
If cunnilingus is planned, avoid washing just beforehand to avoid disturbing the vaginal flora. As for hair, it’s a question of preference. Some women like to be completely waxed, others not. The most important thing is to discuss it. If the man has a beard or moustache, it may be a good idea to soften it beforehand to avoid irritation. Understanding your partner’s anatomy is essential.
Check consent and limits
As with any sexual practice, making sure your partner consents is essential. If she doesn’t feel like it, respect her choice without insisting. In this case, there’s always the good old erotic masturbation.
It’s also very important to discuss each other’s limits beforehand. Some women don’t like finger penetration during cunnilingus, others don’t want anal stimulation. Clarifying what’s acceptable and what isn’t ensures a respectful and pleasurable experience.
Mastering techniques for successful cunnilingus
To build excitement, start with slow upward movements of the tongue, from the vagina to the clitoris. Alternate, exploring the entrance to the vagina and every nook and cranny of the vulva.
Varying the movements is key: make small circles with the tip of your tongue around the clitoris, faster strokes from left to right, gently sucking the clitoris between your lips. Use the flat of the tongue for longer caresses of the erogenous zones. Alternating rhythms, pressure and zones stimulated will maintain arousal.
Clitoral stimulation and finger penetration
Once your partner is fully aroused, concentrate more on the clitoris, with faster, more intense movements on and around it. Stay on the same area for a while when she reacts strongly.
To increase pleasure tenfold, delicately insert a finger into the vagina, then two, while continuing tongue movements on the clitoris. Use your fingers to move back and forth, stimulating the famous G-spot. This double lingual-digital game will build excitement right up to a vaginal orgasm.
Mistakes to avoid during cunnilingus
The clitoris is very sensitive, especially at first. Rushing over it with a tongue that’s too hard or dry is likely to be unpleasant. It’s best to start by gently grazing it and letting the excitement build before stimulating it more firmly.
If your partner has a very sensitive clitoris, prefer tongue strokes next to it rather than directly on the glans. You can also stimulate it indirectly over the hood. On the other hand, some women need a lot of stimulation to get off. Observe her reactions to adjust!
Don’t suddenly change your technique
When your lick has an effect on her, don’t change it! It’s a common mistake to want to keep varying. But when pleasure arrives, it’s better to repeat the same movement until orgasm.
If you do vary, do it gently. Accelerate gradually, press your tongue a little harder, tighten the rhythm. But avoid suddenly switching from one rhythm to another. It takes time to reach orgasm, so stay focused on what works!
Cunnilingus as foreplay
Cunnilingus is often seen as a climax. But it can be used as foreplay to build desire before intercourse.
You can alternate between licking the vulva, kissing the neck and caressing the breasts. Come back and titillate the clitoris for a few seconds, then explore a thigh or buttock. This back-and-forth game will heighten her arousal. You can also couple it with a good mutual masturbation to increase the thrill.
Make the pleasure last and postpone penetration
Play catch-me-if-you-can with your tongue. Get close to her sensitive spot, then pull away, making oral foreplay last. Your partner will want nothing more than for you to penetrate her.
But don’t give in too quickly! Keep her pining, just push your glans in, then pull out, titillate her clitoris again. The longer you put off full penetration, the more she’ll crave it. She’ll want more!
